We don't need to justify love; it is there or not there. Real love
is accepting your art - or other people the way they are without trying to change them. If we try to change them, this means we
don't really like them. Of course, if you decide to live with someone, if you make that agreement, it is always better to make that agreement with someone who is exactly the way you want him or her to be. Find someone whom you don't have to change at all. It is much easier to find someone who is already the way you want him or her to be, instead of trying to change that person. Also, that person must love you just the way you are, so he or she doesn't have to change you, that means they really don't love you the way you are. We have to be what we are, in our art, our relationships, or life so that we don't have to present a false image. If you love me or my art the way it is, "Okay, take me." If you don't love me the way I am, "Okay, bye, bye. Find someone else." It may sound harsh, but this kind of communication means the personal agreements we make with
others are clear and impeccable. And there has to be little justification.....we just become human. Incredibly human.

Randy and Don Miguel Ruiz
Adapted from "The Four Agreements"